How Cyber-Bullying Changed My Life Forever

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How Cyber-Bullying Changed My Life Forever

 

Prologue

Since 2001, I have helped celebrities & public figures track down their stalkers and/or online bullies. Cyber-stalking and harassment has been an issue even before social sites. When I first started, the most I had to protect my clients from was crazies attacking them through email or message boards. Law enforcement really had no idea how to handle online threats back then so it was up to people like me to find out who was doing the harassing and make them stop. Typically, a celebrity would contact me telling me their story and what they knew of their attacker if anything. I would then screen shot and save all evidence I could find. Then, I would began to track down the location of the person who was stalking/harassing and get them banned from the place they were using to attack. Last, I would give the celebrity a file with all the information I collected on the stalker so the celeb could get help from their lawyer.

I was super successful in tracking down over 150 stalkers within the first 5 years. Online investigating was the number one top service requested through Hollyweb Online. As social sites grew, my work load tripled from celebrities in desperate need of help. Cyber-stalking and cyber=-harassment was growing rapidly since most websites allowed them to create accounts anonymously. As the online threats grew, so did the stalkers knowledge. It got harder and harder to track down these criminals or force them to stop. Social sites were not helping by allowing heavy amounts of bullying/stalking to take place before they considered it a threat.

If a stalker was out to get you and ruin your life, they could very easily and get away with it. For instance, Twitter’s TOS states that you can not tweet someone’s private or personal info on their site. BUT, you can go and pay for a background check on someone and then share that information in a tweet. Twitter allows that because the info came from another site and was just shared on their website. In their eyes, it’s just public information. They don’t care how the person obtained the information; the fact that they were able to get it makes it public info to them.

It is frightening to know that someone could post your phone number and address on a social site and there is nothing you can do to get it removed. I will share even more examples of how unprotected social site users are later in this blog. My point is stalkers/bullies have found ways around social site’s terms of service which makes my job super hard these days.

Ten years ago, if a bully called you some awful names and made any kind of threat towards you, I could easily get their IP banned. I use to be able to call Internet Service Providers and show them what their user was doing. The ISP had the right to discontinue their service. That actually happened on a few occasions. If harassment was taking place on popular websites, all I had to do was show the owner proof and they would ban the user. Simple as that. Just a few years ago it was still that way for celebrities at least. If a verified celebrity was under attack, all I really had to do was report the bully and he/she was taken care of. Regular Joe’s weren’t so lucky. Unless the social site saw a real threat towards a user they would not help them. People were becoming so frustrated because their safety and reputation was threatened. The most common answer given when you report a bully is “We are sorry you are experiencing this issue. Please block the account. If harassment continues, please contact law enforcement.”

Well anyone who has ever dealt with cyber-harassment knows that just blocking the bully doesn’t work. Contacting law enforcement is just as useless unless the bully has threatened you with physical harm. You are left with only one option and that’s a civil lawsuit. Sure, that is great for celebrities that have the money to take crazies to court but the average Joe doesn’t have that luxury.

Therefore, cyber-harassment continues to grow getting worse and worse. I found myself helping my celebrity clients more with these cyber issues than any other service I offered. In my free time, I was teaching a Kings Kids class and mentoring teens at local shelters and groups. My KK students were between the ages of 4-10. The teens I worked with were 13-19. The one thing these children, teens, and celebrity clients had in common was bullies. I heard about bullying all day during work and then during class or volunteering. I also have four children of my own and 2 step sons so I heard all about school bullies when at home. Bullies Bullies Bullies. To me it seemed like this was some kind of epidemic. Sure, there have always been bullies but the problem was escalating and out of control.

 

The Beginning

I was talking to a friend about this one day when she suggested we launch an anti-bullying website together. She and I both were mentors and both of us were studying psychology. We both had online investigation skills and went to several seminars to educate ourselves. By the way, I still regularly attend various seminars and classes as the online world progresses. A lot of brainstorming, help from my kids, and wisdom from my Nana, we created an organization called Bullies Keep Out on March 20, 2013. The purpose of our organization was to give people of all ages a place of solace to go and get support. It was great for the first couple months but we had numerous issues with my friend living in New York and myself living in Florida. Plus, I was limited to what services I could provide. I wanted to do so much more than just raise awareness about bullying. I was also dealing with major health issues at the time which turned out to be chronic lupus. I was diagnosed this year. During one of my hospital visits I met an old friend of mine named Shannon. She was fighting breast cancer but determined she would do as much good in the world as she could. She and I became very close in a short amount of time. My Nana, who is now in Heaven, told us we should start up our own organization that deals with bullying but focuses on ending all forms of hate? Shannon already volunteered at animal shelters, old folk’s homes, and women shelters. I was good at starting up small businesses and handling all the technical details. Together, we were a pretty good team. Quickly, we found out that just the two of us couldn’t do it all. Not if we really wanted to make a difference. I brought in a couple volunteers to help and Shannon brought in a handful of women she trusted. Within just a couple weeks we were up and running.

Shannon named the organization No More Victims on November 4, 2013. Shannon would continue her volunteer work and I would put together events and programs. I purchased a special permit that allowed me to house several dogs and cats without getting in trouble. We turned my 2 acres of land into a small shelter. Since Shannon and I were spending so much time building up the organization, we put the volunteers head over social media and emails. We were so naive and overflowing with happiness we never imagined what was to come. It’s also important that I add I was hired to help start up a few other organizations during this time. One of those organizations was S.A.F.E. Stop Abusive Family Environments. I will talk more about them shortly.

 

The New Client

 

On April 11, 2013 my celebrity friend told me about a celebrity friend of hers that was in desperate need of help. I don’t want to name the celebrity because there will be several readers that had no idea this took place and I am not trying to promote the issue. Those of you who were involved or around when this entire thing went down will know who I am talking about. I am going to call her Mojo. Matter of fact, I will change names to all parties involved. Mojo emailed me and told me what was happening to her. It was awful and no women or celebrity should have to go through that. She had a scary obsessed stalker that had me really worried when I saw everything she sent me. She hired me that same day and I got to work immediately dropping everything else.

April 14, 2013 the job was finished. Mojo was super relieved and very grateful. Since it was once of my best friends that sent Mojo to me I charged 10% of what I usually charge. I also guaranteed that if her stalker became a problem again I would stop him in his tracks no charge. I was blown away when Mojo paid me full price despite my offer. That never happens lol. Usually, a client tries to talk you down on the price. I decided then that Mojo was an awesome woman and I would do my best to help her whenever she needed it.

Right away, Mojo hired me again. Like most celebrities that engage with fans on a regular basis she had a good handful of stalkers. This particular stalker was a woman and it took me no time to make her back off. April 17, 2013 she was no longer an issue and Mojo was able to breathe easily.

I handled a few small threats free of charge and kept the initial stalker at bay. He tried rearing his ugly head a couple times after but eventually went away for good. I stayed super alert during this time making sure both major stalkers kept their distance. It was a full time job because I monitored all Mojo’s online accounts looking for anything suspicious or threatening. On May 7, 2013, Mojo sent her friend Ted to me for help. He was dealing with a super stalker out to ruin his reputation. A couple days later Mojo referred another friend to me we will call Rayna Byson.

I told Mojo I was going to bring in a partner to help with her friends cases because her stuff alone was a time consuming job. I also had my company Hollyweb Online that I was running. She said that was fine with her. She was just so happy with all that I done for her, she was telling everyone to come to me for help.

I gave both new cases over to Dana from BKO and helped a little when I could. Later, after Dana felt like she did all that she could for Ted, I noticed that several of the accounts Mojo reported to me were friends of Ted’s stalker. It is not uncommon for stalkers to attack the friends of the person they are targeting. Mojo was taking a lot of from Ted’s stalker and friends. One of them we will call Bonnie was awful to both Ted and Mojo. Grown men and women were creating troll accounts with names like queenturd, catfishqueen, turdlicker, and more that are so bad I can’t mention. No, this wasn’t teenagers either. I am talking about adults 30 and over.

Mojo was very supportive of my idea to branch off Bullies Keep Out and open No More Victims. When the website and social sites launched in late Nov. 2013, Mojo promoted the sites on her social accounts.

Instantly, our organization was flooded with emails from people needing help with a cyber-stalker or bully. My home was turned into a cyber station as we tried to listen to everyone’s story. Most of the team was work at home Moms which made it easier for us to get together and work. The downfall of having many people answering emails was we couldn’t tell if people’s stories were related. As a new case came in, a new volunteer were take it on and do her best to help. Most the time, we focused on our own cases and didn’t go to each other for help unless we were just stumped on what to do. I was usually the one who handed out the cases so no one person had too much on their plate. There was no way we could have known that a group of women emailing us for help was all from the same online fight.

On June 13th 2013 just a short time after I was hired by Mojo she was put in the limelight for making a few jokes about Leann Rimes. I don’t know if you know this but Leann Rimes has some crazy brutal fans. Mojo gained several new followers on Twitter who just wanted to attack her for her comments. Mojo made some more comments over the months about Housewives shows and reality TV. By the time NMV was launched there was an enormous amount of fights taken place on Twitter over Leann Rimes & realty TV shows. This is very important to note because when Mojo innocently promoted us we were swarmed with her fans and haters that needed help. (For those who know who I am talking about just Google her name with Leann’s)

The first ten emails we got were women seeking help from online stalkers/bullies attacking them on and offline over Leann Rimes or Housewives shows. I am serious as a heart attack. There were woman posting nasty Photoshop pictures of peoples kids, people were posting addresses and phone numbers of others with threats. Anything that these bullies could use to shame each other, they were using. If that wasn’t bad enough they were calling peoples work trying to get them fired. I can’t even tell you all the immature idiocy I witnessed. I don’t think Mojo even knew the half of what was going on around her.

It wasn’t till a few months after things began to die down that I went back through all the emails or organization received and noticed that 95% of the people who emailed us were part of this Mojo fan or hater crowd.

We did the best we could do by speaking to all parties involved to hear there side. We tried to give support and be mediation between the parties. Honestly, it was beyond on us. Most of the people involved didn’t want to stop fighting. They just wanted an organization to take their side or they were hoping we would help them fight.

The most common request we received was, “Can you please get this account banned?” I signed up with Facebook & Twitters partner portal. Not only was it to get their help with these cases but also to help my Hollyweb clients with verification and impersonation.

 

The Case That Started It All

 

On 1/13/2014 Mojo asked me to help out a fan of hers that was the target of online harassment after trying to help Mojo make T-shirts for Mojo’s charity. Mojo told me this fan offered to make her charities T-shirts free and design them. Mojo said she had all the proof via email that the designs of the shirts belonged to them. However, for some reason she didn’t quite understand another clothing company stole her fans design and was selling Mojo’s T-shirts for profit. The T-shirts were created to look like Mojo’s book. I saw no reason why another clothing company would steal the designs and sell them. No matter what the reason behind it was, the awful harassing tweet from the company to Mojo’s fan was unnecessary. Any civilized business owner would just take the matter before a court and let a judge decide. You would never see a reputable company bullying, name calling, and harassing another company owner for all their customers to see. Most people would be terrified of losing business if their customers saw their dirty behavior. Not this company! They harassed Mojo’s fan every day publicly and didn’t care what people thought.

When I was brought on to the case I looked at both the fans account and the clothing companies account. Now I don’t if any tweets were deleted before I was brought in but I do know what I saw that day. At least 20 tweets from the clothing company name-calling and mocking Mojo’s fan. All I saw from the fan was a couple tweets begging them to stop.

I was outraged by the behavior I acted out of emotion and tweeted directly to them asking them to stop the harassment ASAP. I asked them if they would take their issue offline instead of publicly humiliating my client. I was shocked when they tweeted back asking me who I was to confront them and I needed to stop harassing them before they report me. I tweeted them one last tweet which was the definition of harassment since all I said was two things to them and they said I was harassing them. I reported them to Twitter, BBB, and wrote up a report for IC3. I asked all my friends and business partners to report the company as well.

The story behind the situation was the craziest I think I ever heard. The fan hired the said company to design shirts for her. For a reason I can’t remember the fan returned the shirts and opened a claim against the company. At first, PayPal ruled in the fans favor. Then, the company appealed and showed PayPal how the fan returned T-shirts that were open, worn, and missing jewels. PayPal then ruled in the companies favor. The company claimed the fan still owned them 47.50 so that gave them all rights to the fans designs including the designs for Mojo’s shirts. The company stated to one of our volunteers that a message at the bottom of their emails warns buyers that they will lose all their designs to the company if they owe any money. This is the signature at the bottom of the company’s emails:

****All sales are final; payment is due in full prior to production.
NOTE: Our NORMAL tee is a slim fit/junior fit, if you are concerned about sizing, go up a size. These are all custom pieces made to order, please be sure you have exactly the logo, colors, and sizes and garment before you place order. We do not accept returns on custom pieces. If there is an issue with an item, please contact us by phone or e-mail so it can be resolved. Every item made is photographed and will be displayed on all media, portfolio and catalogs. If you hold a copyright or registration on a logo or art please provide it, otherwise, any version we create is our design and may be used or sold. We stock thousands of pieces and designs so please visit our Facebook page for the most up to date work.
NEW Designs, expect a 7-14 working day turn-around, stock items may be available same day.

So does that email signature give the company full legal right to own and sell someone else’s designs? You can find the answer here: https://www.eff.org/wp/clicks-bind-ways-users-agree-online-terms-service

Either way, selling T-shirts for profit that were to raise money for a charity is ugly. Harassing someone for months on end publicly is ugly. All our organization wanted was the company to stop the humiliating public display but it turned into a huge copyright/trademark battle.

First of all, this is way above what my organization handles. This is an issue for the courts. The fan claimed she had her small business logo for over three years which qualified her for a common law trademark. Then, in December 2014 she applied for trademark anyways. This was on her logo though, not on Mojo’s T-shirts design, and not on a couple other designs the company stole.

This entire time I was most concerned about Mojo’s T-shirt designs which I believed was completely copyrighted and Mojo has the proof.

I did my best to help the fan get her designs back from the company but without legal help it was impossible. The host of the company’s website wouldn’t help and neither would online stores like Etsy because there was no trademark/copyright and that is all they care about for proving ownership.

Since the company wasn’t worried about getting sued, they weren’t worried about continuing to harass. Mojo hooked me up with an old friend of hers that worked for the FBI. He pretty much just suggested we deal with it if suing was not an option.

 

The  Troublemaker

 

One of our volunteers named Olivia met a couple Twitter reps on LinkedIn and built up a friendship. During that time Twitter was working on making better safety options on their platform. Olivia got the two reps to help her with some of the worse bullies on Twitter. She told the team all about her new friends during one of our board meetings. We had no reason not to trust her since she was getting several parody accounts and troll accounts removed.

A volunteer we had at the time named Kate was given a case started by a woman we will call Rose on 1/22/14. (Pay attention to these dates it’s very important in putting the puzzle together) I gave Kate the case because I was working on a new case for Mojo and for another celebrity client at that time. Rose told Kate that she was a fan and supporter of Leann Rimes and one of Leann’s haters was harassing her and her family. She said she knew exactly who was doing it and sent me the woman’s information. Supposedly, this woman created a parody account using Rose’s parents address and pics of their home. She said a woman was caught running the account and disabled her personal account when she was busted. Rose said she already contacted police and spoke to a lawyer to no avail.

Kate did what she thought was best by trying to calm Rose down and let her know we would do our best. Kate has Olivia send the parody account to her Twitter guys to try and get it shut down ASAP. She told me how awful the situation was but didn’t tell me the name of the account was an address. The parody account was locked up by the time I saw it so I didn’t even see the pics of the house. Not thinking it would be a big deal I tweeted asked all our followers to block and report the account so it would be shut down faster. The main reason I didn’t this would be an issue is because Rose herself have several tweets on her timeline mentioning the account name. Soon after I tweeted, Rose DMed us VERY upset asking us to take down the tweet ASAP and blamed us for sharing her parent’s personal information. She hen accused us of being on her enemy’s side. We told her several times we do not choose sides. We try to resolve the issue in a way that everyone can walk away peacefully.

She wouldn’t have it though and threatened she was going to report us. Olivia obtained the accounts IP. At first it appeared the account was in CA but then with the help of a tech savvy friend we learned the owner was behind a VPN. The actual IP traced to PA. We also were able to pull the same IP from a tracking link. It was clear to us that the owner of the parody account was in PA where Rose lived. Upon further investigating we were able to track the IP to a family member of Rose’s house. We also found a handful of websites were that IP was used. Each site was linked to that same family member. That is when it occurred to us that Rose had tried to frame the woman in CA by using the VPN. We took that in consideration and the way she spoke to us with hostility when we were trying to help her. Then, we looked at her social media and saw the way she talks to tons of people. Last, we had the woman she framed report which checked out. That is when we decided we would no longer help her and dropped her case. We had to block her because of the hostile way she acted. Keep in mind, we never asked for a dollar. All these cases were free. NMV never charged to help a victim. Our TOS & rules started from day one on our website how we operated and that we had the right to turn down a case at any time if we knew the client was dishonest.

Rose just so happened to be friends with the woman who was harassing Ted. I don’t believe for one second this is a coincidence. I actually have full reason to believe Rose coming to us was a set up. Ted’s stalker FauxReality knew that I was a part of Bullies Keep Out, the organization that tried to get her to stop harassing Ted. Then, a couple months later she sees Mojo promoting me and my new organization. BKO helped Ted, a guy FauxReality despised and BKO helped Rayna Byson another person FauxReality disliked. My organization was a threat in her eyes because we were on the wrong side. I believe Rose was sent in along with a couple other women to see how we operated and what we could do.

 

When It Went From Bad to Worse

 

While all this crazy drama was taking place, my partner and friend Shannon went to the hospital for pneumonia and never came out. As I said earlier she was battling breast cancer which made it really hard for her to fight the pneumonia. It was a tragic loss that ripped my heart into. The group of women bullies saw it as weakness and a chance to attack me personally.

I don’t know if the clothing company reached out to Fauxreality first or vice versa. Either way, they decided to team up and make things worse for the fan, Mojo, others involved and me.

I chose to ignore most of it because it started out with basic accusations and name calling. The called my organization unprofessional, a scam for money, and said we victimized victims since we refused Rose’s case. The woman Rose tried to frame had a husband with an upsetting past. I think Kate told me something about this when she was working on Rose’s case but honestly it was so hard keeping track of who was who during the time. Anyways, since we dropped Rose’s case, Fauxreality began to tweet and then blog about how we chose the side of a woman who’s husband had a record and therefore we must condone what he was accused of.

I knew who she FauxReality was from the prior issues so I sent her a tweet from my personal account asking her to stop directing harassment in my way. If you have ever spoke to law enforcement about a cyber bully they will tell you the first thing to do is publicly ask them to stop. That way, if things escalate you can show a judge that you asked them to quit and they refused.

Since I called her by her name she stated that I tried to intimidate her. Exactly the same type of behavior I got from the clothing company when I asked them to stop publicly harassing. That reminds me how we were taught at seminars that 90% of bullies are narcissist. It’s a shame because narcissistic personalities could actually be used for great good.

I began to look for another partner for No More Victims and spoke to several of my friends. One thing we all seemed to have in common is we didn’t like name of the organization and we didn’t like all the dark colors Shannon chose before. Long story short, the organization was changed to R.I.S.E. & STAND.

Everything I did at the time was under a microscope by FauxReality. I was accused of re-designing and changing the name of the organization to cover up all the “awful things” we did. I sat down and spoke to each volunteer to talk about all the changes that were to come and discuss with them any accusations they had against them. For example, Olivia claimed she had Twitter reps helping her directly but I never met or spoke to them. She decided to leave the organization rather then give me the names and contact of the reps. She feared I would go public about them and the guys would lose their job.

Kate and Alisha left out of fear their children would get brought into all the harassment. This was a common method used among Fauxreality’s friends. They would post photos of the victim’s children to sites known for having pedophiles lurking.

The harassment only continued to grow worse. Fauxreality dug up an old record of mine that was dropped and sealed. She posted that around trying to humiliate me. She posted records from my ex husband and old records from my husband Chad. I think out of everything I went through the worse was the attack on my daughter Felicity who was 13/14 at the time. My daughters Twitter account was mainly used for her Creepy Pasta role playing group. She used her characters picture has her AVI like all the teens did in the group. Fauxreality obviously not having teens in her home, thought this meant my daughters account was a fake sock account. Since she had so much proof to go on that the account was fake, (sarcasm) she decided to attack her account along with her friends Horsemen of Death, BB King and 1shot1kill. Not only did they call my daughter awful names, they sent her all her Dad’s old mug shots and records. At this time, I had not ever told my baby girl about her biological father’s lifestyle. As far as she knew, he lived in GA and worked on a farm. It still hurts to much to even think about it but let’s just saw she spent some time speaking with a therapist for a few weeks. She is now on anxiety meds. She NEVER had any psychological problems before that time.

 

Divide & Conquer Method

 

Any notable evil narcissist knows that the best way to take down your enemies is using the old divide and conquer method. Fauxreality deserves a trophy for how many times she has successfully used this method. My organization was down to less than a handful of people after volunteers were released or left scared. I spoke to several lawyers until we finally found one that would take the case with a hefty retainer. No one really had anything to offer, there was so much he said she said, and I was really the only one with a truly valid case. According to the lawyer, everyone else involved possibly had small civil disputes but nothing serious enough for a lawyer to make good money. It’s so sad that it’s come to that in America….

I went to Mojo and The Fan and told them suing was our last option but I could not afford it on my own so everyone who wanted this to end needs to pitch in. The plan was I would try to retain the lawyer since I had the worse happen to me at that time. Everyone’s problems would be fixed when I sued because I would show the courts all who were involved, use statements, and have people testify. I was quoted 7,000 to get started by a defamation & libel attorney in Tampa.

I sent all the info to Mojo and she donated 2k off the bat and then sent emails to tons of her friends asking for donations. She re-opened her Twitter which, she had recently shut down due to the bullying, and posted a tweet longer asking fans to help. The TL was just the same email posted on Twitter for all to see. She let it up for a short time and then closed the Twitter again so she could focus on her health. All the stress and drama caused her Lupus to come back with a vengeance. Since I was recently diagnosed with chronic lupus, I can tell you it’s NO FUN. You feel faint, your heart beats out of control, your blood pressure goes up, your usually anemia, and you are fatigued 24/7.

I put 600.00 on the attorney right away. 400.00 went to filing the case. The other 1000.00 just set in the PayPal till we collected more. The Fan donated 80.00 all together between two payments and a couple others donated 20.00.

We were still lacking big time but the longer it took us to collect the money the more time we had to gain more evidence. The lawyer was a super kind man that I still talk to today. I think he had a crush on my sister lol because he met with us a few times to go over stuff even without the full retainer paid.

Before I get a head of myself let me explain what happened during the time I was building up the case for the lawyer. Fauxreality saw Mojo’s TL that was posted and new we were getting a lawyer. She and the clothing company hit The Fan and I even harder. Another blog came out about what a grifter I am and how I lied about so many things. I wrote a public statement answering all her accusations with solid evidence & proof. The lawyer said that was perfectly find to do because then she can see she was wrong and hopefully stop. Wishful thinking.

My friends and family were getting attacked for sticking up for me and The Fan. Sandra removed her organization off of Twitter. Sandra’s mother owned a charity for 22 years and was going to add S.A.F.E. & Rise & Stand under their 501c3 like an umbrella. Sandra also sold Herbalife on the side for extra income. All of her board members made a pact that if they lost 10 lbs they would donate 100.00 each for the cost of the organizations expenses. They reached the goal around the same time they were approved for the 501c3. They threw a party to celebrate but Fauxreality quickly sucked the joy away from them by stealing a photo off one of the girls Facebook and posting it to Twitter saying the 501c3 was a lie and they were only celebrating weight-loss.

It’s almost laughable when you think about it all now but when you are actually going through it it’s no laughing matter at all. One day I just had enough. Some silly accusation was made that was so absurd it drove me nuts. I called the lawyer and asked him to figure out what I could do to get things going right away. I owned my own home, two vehicles, and a boat. I would sell or pawn something. He said he needed The Fan to send him copyrights on everything first. Especially, Mojo’s T-shirts designs. I emailed The Fan and found out there was no copyright on the design or any design for that matter. I asked him if we could use the common law trademark thing but he said no. Because PayPal sided with the company and the host all did too he said there was no theft or defamation case. I could still push for harassment but most likely that would get thrown out since The Fan had “reverse bullied” at times. I don’t agree with that but he said that is the way the court would see. I still had a solid case against Fauxreality and her gang if I wanted to pursue just that.

I told The Fan and Mojo that we did not have a case against the clothing company but I would still do all I can to help. The Fan was pissed at me. She felt like I failed her and wasted her time. She asked for her donation back and I sent it. Mojo asked for half of her 2k back. I still wanted to sue. I still wanted to at least do a harassment suit at that time. I asked Mojo if I could keep the full 2k and she just wouldn’t have to pay me for the last job I finished. I also offered to do some free work. I didn’t care what I had to do I just wanted to be able to put this all to an end. I had already spent so much money and still needed to pay for protection orders, get Twitter subpoenaed and finish paying the lawyer.

Mojo let me keep the full 2k and asked for a tax invoice which I sent through PayPal. (We didn’t have a 5013c or anything at the time we were still so new.) Then, she went away to deal with her health. She came back for a short time but was immediately attacked. One of Mojo’s fans DMed her and said that I said horrible things about her. She was clearly sent by Fauxsreality’s gang. Mojo believed it though thinking maybe I turned on her for leaving. Out of emotion she said some pretty hurtful things I wont mention about me to the “spy” and she told the “spy” that she couldn’t believe I would back stab her after giving me 8k to get a lawyer.

Mojo said that when she told the “spy” that she was heart broken and meant that over the period of time I worked for her she estimated she paid me around 8k for my services. She could have hired anyone but she hired me because she loved what I did. I don’t know to this day if she meant to cause me the grief she did but the spy ran straight to Fauxreality and told her what she learned.

Within days, a new blog came out about how I embezzled 8,000 from Mojo and our relationship ended. There were all sorts of accusations of what could have happened.

I sent Mojo a total of 6 emails from the time the blog went up till the time I decided to take matters into my own hands. On May 28th 2014 Mojo told me for the last time to quit asking her for any help regarding the harassment. She said she was in the hospital from stepping wrong and falling off a 4 story cliff. She had just been operated on and hurting like hell. She said she just couldn’t handle anything else on her plate.

Without her help, the lawyer decided he couldn’t take the case. How it all began was too important to the case. He told me how it would all play out if I went before a judge. They would want to know how Fauxreality was introduced into my life, who hired me and why, and most importantly, the feud between mojo’s fans that made me a target as I worked.

Mojo wasn’t talking to me and neither was her Fan. All I could do I this point was a small civil suit that wasn’t even worth the money spent. I tried my best to put it all behind me for 6 months. Rise & Stand flourished despite the rough start. We grew considerably in a short time. Once in awhile someone would come across Fauxreality’s blogs and it would re-open a fresh wound. In November 2014, I had a very large celebrity supporting Rise & Stand until his publicist found the blogs online. He was worried because the blogs make it look like I stole thousands of dollars from Mojo. I explained everything but his publicist said until that was removed they would have to hold off on joining the board.

That was enough! I watched during this time as Mojo’s fan turned on me and made a deal with the enemy. That didn’t work of course but till it cut me deep when she did it. Mojo caused a big mess for me and than ran from it. She claims today that she didn’t know what was happening to me but I have 6 emails that prove differently. A handful of the people I tried to help were not there for me when I needed it. That’s fine, my Mom always taught me don’t expect to have the same heart as you do.

I still had my small lawyers fund so I hired a new one to be there for Rise & Stand when I needed him for anything. He read all the blogs and all the statements I ever wrote and then he looked though all my files. He suggested that I first contact Fauxreality directly and send her all Rise & Stand’s public info. That would answer a ton of her questions. Then, send her whatever proof I had that Mojo did not donate 8,000 to my organization for a lawyer.

I told him I only had two types of proof. One was emails showing how much she really did donate and the other was invoices. He said remove any personal info and send those. On Nov. 24, 2014 that is exactly what I did with the help of a friend as a witness. I sent two emails I received from Mojo that was sent out to tons of fans for help that showed she donated 2k and we needed a total of 7k. One of the emails was the same one Mojo used as a TwitLonger. Of course I removed her email and anyways else’s address. All Fauxreality did was tell me thanks and apologize for the misunderstanding. She said she would take down the blogs and she did for awhile.

I have no idea why they are back up again. She and I never spoke again despite Mojo thinking I am in some kind of cohorts with Fauxreality. As I expected Fauxreality posted the emails. Both emails were put together. I honestly did not think Mojo would get so mad about it. I REALLY did not think she would see it as some kind of betrayal. The reason is because they were both public at once. Another reason is because she forwarded them to several fans, two of the receivers turned out to be spies for Fauxreality. She probably already seen the emails before but didn’t post them because it would give away the spies. Plus, MOJO said nothing wrong in the emails. She was helping me gain money for our lawsuit. All it did was prove she did not really donate 8,000. That’s it!

Still, I was attacked by several people on Thanksgiving weekend for betraying Mojo and befriending Fauxreality. Now, I find out she is suppose to be suing me? SMH

And that my friends is how I learned never to get involved with other peoples business. I am still mentoring teens. I still run several programs helping women and children, animals, people in recovery, married couples, and those battling PTSD. I have not had any trouble with cyber-bullying or online harassment since this incident. I do still talk to several people I met during that time once in awhile. I learned a lot during the time. The one thing I took away from it all was the experience of knowing what it felt like to be under attack. I now know how hard it is to choose if you want to be a victim or you want to make a stand.

I chose to take a stand. I didn’t give up even when others ran. I still won’t and that’s one reason Rise & Stand is as strong as it is. People will believe what they want after reading this. More accusations will probably be made but at the end of the day I know the truth in my heart. None of it will stop me from making a positive impact in this world.

Love you all! God Bless,

Kitty McCaffery

A couple things I want to point out to refresh memories:

Do you see anywhere here where I said I needed to keep the 1k for my husbands medical bills? I was still focused on getting the lawyer.
Do you see anywhere here where I said I needed to keep the 1k for my husbands medical bills? I was still focused on getting the lawyer.
Not even asking for help just letting her know what I am going through because of the lie about 8k
Not even asking for help just letting her know what I am going through because of the lie about 8k
About the author
Hi! I am the owner of Mccaffery Media Group, a PR & Talent management company providing service to the entertainment industry and public figures. I am also the founder of R.I.S.E. & STAND, a non-profit giving circle organization that promotes love, and raises awareness to prevent acts of cruelty, through education, mentoring, and fundraisers. Reach. Inspire. Support. Empower.